The Love Dare: Day 2-8
OK, so I want to apologize for not posting everyday as promised…I had some mishaps with my internet services and could really only check things out from work. I did, however, make notes so I could write once things were up and running.
Day2: Love is Kind
This day was not as difficult as the previous day…the dare was to, in addition to not saying anything negative, doing a kind gesture for my husband. I offered my husband if he wanted me to bring him coffee to his job. He said “no” but I guess it was the thought that counted…I’m not even sure he noticed. I still think that not saying anything negative is more difficult than doing something thoughtful. I am very quick with the tongue and I’ve become increasingly aware of it.
Day 3: Love is not selfish
Today was actually fun…it was a little easier to hold my tongue and not be rude and I was nice to think of what I would get him. Since my hubby and I are both doing the dare we decided to set a budget of 10.00. I thought what to buy him all day and I guess that what the book says is true, “whatever your time, energy and money into will become more important to you.” I thought of him all day and looked forward to him coming home from work so we could exchange gifts. Of course I went over the budget (what’s new?) but only by a few dollars. I can honestly say that things feel like they are improving.
Day 4: Love is thoughtful & Day 5: Love is not rude
The dare for day 4 was to call your spouse, out of the blue, and ask if there was anything we could do for each other. Truthfully speaking, hubby and I don’t have a problem there. We speak several times and day and often for no reason at all; I did what the book dared and asked if there was anything he needed. He was also thoughtful and went as far as to call me several times through the say and even brought me my favorite coffee that morning.
As for day 5, well, that hit very close to home! The dare was to tell your spouse 3 things that cause him/her to be uncomfortable with you. I, as usual, had to narrow the list down to 3…and when he gave me his three is was very difficult not to go off and justify my actions. I took my medicine like a big girl and swallowed the bitter truth about myself. This has to be my biggest flaw and the book continues to remind me of all I have to work on…wish me luck!
Day 6: Love is not irritable
Ok, I thought day 1 & 5 was hard---pie next to day 6!!!!!! How flawed am I????? Really? Ok, if the previous days hit close to home, today the ball broke through the window and banged right into the back of my head. I am truly not as perfect as I thought I was. I knew I had things to work on but OMG!! I thought this journey would be all about him realizing what a “jerk” he can be sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, my hubby is great and I adore him but, like any other human being, he can be difficult. Maybe I’m just as difficult? Is that a possibility? Nah! I guess it’s true. Someone told me once that the problem and the solution are always staring back at you in the mirror...how true that is. I don’t think that this is hubby’s issue, he is VERY (irritatingly) not irritable at all. Today’s dare was to react to tough circumstances in a loving way instead of with irritation. This one was hard and there were a couple of times in which I just had to walk away and when he would ask me what was wrong I simply responded with, “I’m choosing to say nothing right now”…it’s sort of become our way of holding our tongue from saying something mean and letting each other know not to continue asking “what’s wrong?”
Day 7: Love believes the best
Today was less of a struggle for me, thank God! I don’t think I could have handles another dare like the one from yesterday. Today’s dare was to get 2 sheets of paper, on one I was to write down positive things about hubby and on the other the negative. Then I had to put the lists away for another day; I also had to thank him for one of the positive things I wrote about him. This was fairly easy do, although one list was longer than the other (guess which one). I thanked him for being thoughtful, and honestly, when he puts his heart and mind to it he can be really thoughtful. He thanked me for being sweet...isn’t that sweet? Today was a good day.
Toay's reading also brought me to tears today because it opened my eyes about how ealily we poison our own hearts. Every day's reading have become a blessing for me.
Well, now that I have caught you up on my daring journey, I will let you go. Thanks for reading my rambling thought and brace yourself…7 down, 33 to go!
Oh, just in case you tried to guess which list was longer…it was the positive. Not that the negative was far behind but I searched through every crevice of my heart to ensure it would be this way—if not what am I fighting for?